Three Steps to Letting Go |
Posted: September 15, 2014 |
Three Steps to Letting Go Have you experienced loss? Who hasn't? An important part of loss is the inevitable saying goodbye. The letting go. Doing the very LAST thing we want to do. Here are the 3 parts to Letting go : SEE IT--sometimes the loss we are facing is not the true loss. I was downsized from a job once, but the truth was that company had been disintegrating for quite some time. I stayed there working for several years, but the job I was hired for had loooong since died. I refused to see it. When I finally was asked to leave, I was furious. But my anger wasn't really at them, and that took quite a while to see.... FEEL IT --woe to us who come from families of dysfunction. My stoic, staid, survival-mode family wouldn't know an authentic emotion if it bit them on the nose..and they SURE wouldn't know how to express it. So even if I DO see the loss, I have NO idea what to do with it. Ask for help? What's that look like? HEAL IT--know why hypertension is the "silent" killer? No one sees it or feels it and therefore do not take the necessary steps to heal it. Healing is different for everyone and that's ok. As long as we've done steps 1 and 2, we'll find our way. Ignore those steps and you've got Trouble brewing. I've always loved the Jewish custom of sitting Shiva. It allows time for the achnowledgment of the pain, [SEE IT] expression of the suffering , [FEEL IT] and it allows for "outsiders" to give their love and support. [HEAL IT] In my work, I will help you see the real loss. I will sit with you in silence, in anger or in tears as you express your feelings. And I will support you in your next steps of healing. I'm not going to tell you it doesn't hurt. I AM going to tell you that no matter how it seems, you are never alone. Please call me if you feel that way. Time you learned the truth, Peaches...
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